Episode 35: This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel
This is how it always is in a family with five children: always different, always changing, always unpredictable. This is how it never is: never simple, never obvious, never uncomplicated. This is how it always is: a series of unending questions. When is it right to keep secrets, and when is it right to tell them? What do you do when your children need different things, and there's no way not to fail at least one of them? What do you do when you don't know how best to ensure that your children will be happy and safe, and when there's no way to find out (no research you can do, no one with the answers)? What do you do when you guess at the right thing to do, and your guess turns out to be wrong? This is a book about a transgender child - but this is a book about how it always is: when you're part of a family, when you're a parent, when you're a person.
Host Cyd Oppenheimer talks with author Laurie Frankel about how she managed to write so convincingly about what it's like to have five kids when she only has one ("innate talent! "), which parts she ended up leaving out ("There was a whole plot thread about Hamlet!"), and all the ways this book is and isn't a metaphor.